No More Insecurities

I used to be insecure with myself. I always feel down and think that others life are better than me. That they're living their life to the fullest. As I grew older, I said to myself, "Why the hell that I'm sitting here being insecure when I can go out there explore myself and explore the world?" People around us always try to make us down and give up but we shouldn't allow that. Regardless of what they say, we can't shut everyone's mouth. It's not possible. You can pay the psychiatrist, attend motivation camp but if you don't want to motivate yourself, then all the money and the time spent are for nothing. So, what did I do to get off the insecurities?

1. Talk to Yourself
Talking to yourself doesn't make you crazy. We always listen to others. Some says things that make sense but others are crap. You can listen to others but don't forget to listen to yourself.

2. Be Yourself
Don't be someone else just to please other people. I used to change and try to become someone else until some point I don't even know myself. The worst thing is to lose yourself. Trust me, I'm still recovering myself and thank God I able to gather back missing piece of me. Be yourself or be a better YOU. That's make you happier than pleasing someone that may not appreciate you.

3. Love and Appreciate Yourself
Nobody will love you if you don't love yourself. Stop whining about the negative things that you have. Stop saying you're ugly and fat and hate yourself. Appreciate all the positive things you have, you may look skinny to other people (like me) but you're healthy. You have the advantage to eat anything you want without worrying of gaining weight. If you think you're ugly, learn how make yourself look prettier and attractive. Lots of woman nowadays actually are not really pretty but they learn how to make up, dress up and end up looking attractive. There's a side of our mind that always keep thinking of negative things but counter that with positive things.

4. Get a Hobby
Get a hobby if you don't have one. Something that can give you satisfaction and make you feel good about yourself. Some people even turn the hobby into business. Like one of my friend, she likes to bake. Cakes and cupcakes now turnout to be home business. She's still studying and she earns income with her hobby.

5. Find Someone Who Can Motivate You
It can be friends or someone special. If you want to find a guy or a lady, find someone who can encourage and motivate you, not the one who always de-motivate you. Same goes to friends. When you always be around people who think positive, you will think like them. The negative aura will bring you down.

6. It's Time to Change
Set a target of what changes that required to be a better you. Even if you went to a makeover but after that still be the same you, it's such a waste of time. Two of my colleagues always says that they are going to diet and to gym since early of this year but end up eating more. Early this week, two of them being strict to themselves and sign up for the gym that located in the same building. One of them hire a personal trainer, eating healthy foods and dedicated for the time they spend. It's their resolution this year to slim down and being fit. Honestly, I felt so proud of their efforts even though there's no more lunch together. You need to do what you want to do, not whining about it.

This is all I can think of right now. If I have other and maybe you want to share yours, just drop that at the comment and if it's suitable I will add it here. These are what I did even though it takes time but in the end it's worth it. I proud of myself of what I achieve so far and thanks to Mr Hall for all the encouragement. So, what are you waiting for?

*All tips above are based on my experiences.

Surviving Break Up

After break up, you really need to move on. Not all people willing to do that and even waiting for their ex to be back together even after that person is already married. Listen hear people, once that person in a serious relationship, you really need to move on, not wishing for your ex to break up from current relationship and running back to you. That is so selfish. This list I gathered are from my own experience and other close friends'. It will be different for each other but al least you can try it out.

1. Be Near to God
When I had a bad relationship, I always pray to Allah to show me any sign if I should continue with this unhappy relationship. After that I kept getting sign and can see clearly things that I've never notice before. So, I make my decision and never look back. I always pray to Allah and it helps to heal my broken heart.

2. Remove all possible communication medium
DO NOT contact your ex back or let your ex contact you. Especially if that person dumped you and doesn't want to have anything with you anymore. Take care of your dignity. Don't let other people treat you like rubbish. Remove your ex's phone number, change yours, remove your ex from social networking or better yet use the 'Block' function provided in Facebook. Stop stalking your ex. It'll make you sad when he/she is out there live happily and you're still sobbing over him/her.

3. Get Busy
Make yourself busy. Its not in the end of the whole that you need to stay alone in your room and cry out loud. Do things that you never get a chance to do when you were with your ex. Explore the world.

3. Pampered yourself
Treat yourself like a queen. Go to spa and for guys you can go for a massages. Relax and enjoy being pampered. You can even do it at home if you want to but being pampered by others is much better but yeah, you need to spend some $$$.

4. Removed all pictures
Please don't torture yourself by putting your picture with your ex as your computer and phone wallpaper. Everytime you saw that, it's not reminisce the memory but torturing yourself to sadness. Remove from your computer and social networking.

5. Spend time with your love one
Love in here is not including your ex-lover. Spend time with your family and friends. You'll be suprised of so many person that care for you. I know it'snot the same and you might be jealous or sad when you saw other couple. Enjoy your single life. Don't get desperate and get in a rebound relationship. It hurts you and that person.

6. Cry all you want
Even if you're a guy, if you feel like crying just cry. But don't get carried away for so long. We don't want big ugly puffy eyes and yeah crying too much will ruin your beautiful eyes.

7. Have faith and value yourself
Love yourself and believe that this break up is not the end of the world. It's just a new chapter in your life and you're supposed to be wiser. Be the better you and run free.

After break up, you don't have to hate that person or even go around and spread the how bad your ex is. That's not appropriate. Especially when you did that in social networking. Just move on and enjoy your life. Someone better is waiting for you out there. Seriously, there's no such thing as we can still be friends after break up. Not many people survive that. Some people manage to be friends but preferably not. Unless both of you are happy to keep being friend then go ahead but the friendship will never be the same.

*Images extracted from Goggle.

Bang the Hair

If you read my previous entry about me getting a haircut, well people I just did. Due to my super curly hair had grown and showing off the weird curly-above-straight-below hair, I did a rebonding and had a bang. A straight bang. My hair is so long and I don't feel like cutting it short. Inspired by Angelina Jolie in Salt and Nelly Furtado in Say It Right music video, I have a bang now.

[Angie in Salt]

[Nelly Furtado]

[Why do have such a sexy face?]

Feedback? Since this is my first straight bang, I look totally different. Most of the people like it and some does asking me why the hell I cut my hair this way. My hair my say. It's not a crime to try something new and look different. Some says I look like Cleopatra, some says that I look like Japanese anime, some says I look like Japanese doll but nevertheless, I still love the new hairdo no matter what people say. Oh ya, one of our GM said I look like Lady Gaga. Steve, I do feel like Lady Gaga whenever I put my shades on.